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A secret shared on wedding worries

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Young Marriage Celebrant Sydney - Male Marriage Celebrant Sydney - Modern Marriage Celebrant Sydney - Wedding by Stephen LeeSo be honest. Are you nervous about your wedding? Well let me let you into a secret…. I get nervous too!

Butterflies in your tummy are actually a really good thing to get the old adrenaline pumping. Before every wedding, when the guests are seated, the groom is waiting and the bride is about to arrive, I always feel a little flutter. So I take that surge of energy and turn it into positive confidence. That boost gives you the edge to perform to the best of your abilities. In fact, I’d worry if I didn’t get that feeling – because it would mean I wasn’t focused properly. A good Celebrant is always on top form and ready to deal with any eventuality smoothly and professionally.

Many couples find being the centre of attention in front of a hundred people intimidating, and worry that they will fluff their vows. A few nerves are entirely natural – after all you’re about to make a lifelong commitment. But let that wonderful gift of love fill you with confidence. Here are five practical ways to help you feel relaxed:

1. You’re not doing this alone! You’re there with the love of your life. Hold hands, give each other a smile, support each other.

2. Get into the zone. Once you are standing there with your soon to be husband/wife, and the ceremony is underway, the guests will fade away and you’ll hardly notice them. Honestly, it’s true!

3. Be entertained. Enjoy and listen to the ceremony I have written for you! I’m there to take the worries and stress away, take care of everything, and make sure everything goes smoothly and to plan. You’re in very safe hands! Your guests will laugh, cry, clap and cheer you on so feel the love for you in the room!

4. Practice makes perfect. You know your vows in advance. After all, you wrote them! So practice, pause and don’t forget to breathe.

5. Go with the flow.  If you feel emotional, let it out! It’s what weddings are for. Most brides and grooms will have a few tears – and people will love you even more for it. If you feel choked up, just pause, smile and count to three before saying anything. (“One one-thousand, two one-thousand, three one-thousand. Pause. Begin.)

Don’t forget – a truly great wedding is a healthy mix of careful preparation, celebration and just a tiny bit of perspiration!


Written by Stephen Lee
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